Points of View

Opinions.

I have them, you have them, we all have them! Are they always nice? Heck no! I understand I don't always have to share them, this is a place where I can though! So todays blog is about opinions!

Opinion 1

My mother is a trashy woman for cheating on her husband.

It's been two decades of me deflecting denting this rumor/lie. My mothers response when I asked if she cheated was "When do I have time to cheat? Stop believing the lies by Kenny Rhodes." (Aka my father)

I bring this up now, because I was finally given the first and last name (his wife's name too) and location to the man my mother had an affair with. Michael (Mike) S Lott. And with a few Google searches it wasn't to difficult to find him head lining in news. He's a police officer in WV.

There's a lot to this story, but frankly, when I was told this story again recently I denied it. Saying "I've never caught my mother in a lie. She's a total bitch, and says some of the most hateful judgmental hateful things but has never lied to me." HAHAHAHAHAHA Now who's the dumb bitch-> guys, its me. I'm the dumb birch for believing *her*.

The biggest problem is not her lying and hiding this truth for so long as much as it is that I defended a woman who didn't deserve my loyalty, time or energy. I defended her to the person who shared the name, but I did ask for a last name and location and that I would be following up on this news!

I'm almost 28, and I'm still defending a bold face lie. I don't even like or speak to my mother anymore, but now I know for certain she cheated on my father. PERIOD.

Are their more details? Yes!

Do they really matter to me? Nope.

Am I going to share what I know? Yes.

What I know->

My mother Stacey E Younker had an affair with Mike S Lott sometime between the years 1995-2002.

Mike had a wife name is Stephanie.

Mike is a police officer. Pictured below.

*Mike, his wife, and my mother and father were all active- monogamous- mormons at the time.

*My mother was in a domestic violent marriage (with my father) and was trying to get out. She just tried to get out with someone elses husband. 🤦‍♀️

Everything else I know is hear-say, speculation, and more rumors.

Let it be known that the way I have come across this information made me skeptical, because these family members think so highly of my father. The one who controled and abused his family before during and after the divorce. But now... now I have a full name! It made it easier to process, and confirm its reality. And as I said, regardless when/if cheating ever happen, and it *did* happen, my dad was not a good husband or dad growing up. But sadly, ever since leaving the mormon cult and let beliefs go and question everything, I have learned mother has always been a piece of shit too. The "mom" I knew and any good she has done, keeps being wiped away by the traumatic memories I have from things she has done. Finding this out was the only thing I had left for my mothers character, that she was at least faithful and honest. pfffft.

Open an window though and toss that horse shit out. You may not believe what my mother did makes her a poor quality human, because she felt trapped and in desperation, but again that wasn't my biggest problem- it was that she had to lie about it to me clear up until we stopped talking almost 3 years ago! (I was 25) Own your shit, damnit!

I like knowing what kind of person I am defending. Now I know she wasn't worth it.

Opinion 2- Today is "April fools day" and A popular, triggering and hurtful joke is "fake pregnancies." I am on board with this. What's even worse to me though is all the people who are pregnant who shouldn't be!

While we are at it.. forget "pretending" or "faking". Some of these people begging to be pregnant should figure our their life first before you bringing a child into horrific, traumatic difficulties. And get therapy! Stable/reliable income would be nice as well, but I'm think I have loft goals and expectations for those who have reckless sex with out protection. The world doesn't need anymore kids with crap parents. Including my own. What on earth were they thinking having me and my siblings. I understand not all pregnancies were desired or even consensual sexual encounters, but that is a completely different topic than my point today. There are people who are PLANNING and WANTING to get pregnant, who absolutely should not.

Opinion 3- ALL BODIES ARE BIKINI BODIES.

Bikini Body

Bikini Body

Bikini Body

Bikini bodies!

BIKINI BODY

Contrary to how I was raised, if you have a body you can wear a bikini. :) No matter age, gender, or size!

People who say otherwise have hateful beliefs about their own and others bodies. They are often riddled with insecurities or religious limitations.

You do you, boo! xoxo

There was a bunch more I wanted to add but for now I'll end this one. Anything you are curious about my bold opinions on? Anyone? lol jk I know you guys don't care.

Xoxo,

Me