Why Wear a Raincoat?

SEX

Oooo I said sex. Sure did. Let's talk about it!

The majority of the population enjoys this activity. That same majority is also fricken terrible at preventing unwanted pregnancies, and spreading STI's. Why? Lack of education, lack of resources, and the reserved belief systems that don't want to accept people aren't realistically using abstinence.

People are having sex.  Lots of it! In my sex life alone I'd say close to 70% of the men I've had sex with or had interest in having sex with- showed resistance to wearing a condom, usually one I provided. Rest assured, sex was not had without the love glove- unless they were a regular trusted partner who also was staying tested and clean!

No one LOVES the feel of condoms. But literally no one likes STI's. Babies however, people like those! (Kinda) I mean people aren't taking care of themselves let alone their unwanted pregnancies...according to *690,000* children having spent time in foster care in 2017.

But you are on birth control, why do you need to wear a condom?

Because birth control isn't just to prevent babies! Don't let someone elses selfishness take away your choice for safe sex!

So what do you do when your partner doesn't want to use one and you do? 

Don't have sex with them!

I know it sounds simple, but that's because it is. I know it's not always easy, but protecting your self and you partner is sexy. It should be desired. That should show trust and care. Most STI's are curable and not life threatening, that doesn't mean you leave your genitals unprotected. In 9 months you can find out you have AIDS...(because it takes many months to test positive) or have a human you're now responsible for.

Options! We've got condom options:

There are small/medium/large and size matters in condoms. Wear condoms that properly fit you. Otherwise you might as well not wear one at all because its effectiveness will be compromised if its too big or too small.

Clinics hand these out free. If you've like to find sizes/brands that fit you or your parnter(s). If you're like me, you can go through a box of 24/month. So invest and try something new! My personal fav is XOXO by Trojan, purple box. Low odor/flavor. Meant for 7inches and below folks. Big fella's you need another option, and I haven't found a low odor or flavor one yet for you...I'll report back if I do find something new. But save some for me!

They come in different colors, some have ribs- which I think make the condom thicker and less enjoyable, but everyone likes something different! They even have flavors too! I'm not into flavored anything during sex to be perfectly honest. If you have a vagina PH levels are important. Don't ever put a flavored anything in your vagina. 

Oh hey, it's me!

Storage-

Keep you condoms most effective by storing them away from heat and light. If he has been carrying it in his wallet... trash it. Avoid using oils or lotions with them, there are proper lubes for that. Check expiration dates and never use one that has expired.

Condoms aren't perfect- they break. According to Planned Parenthood "If you use condoms perfectly every single time you have sex, they're 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But people aren't perfect, so in real life condoms are about 85% effective — that means about 15 out of 100 people who use condoms as their only birth control method will get pregnant each year."

What do you do now? Again, more options!

 #1 Get tested. Minimally every 6 months. More so if you have more partners or experience symptoms of STI's, or know a partner has test postie.

#2 Plan B, aka The Morning After pill. It's not cheap compared to those free condoms you got at the clinic- but it's cheaper than a baby. Plan B will run you $40-$60/per use. Best if taken as soon as possible from the condom break. But up to 72hrs. Use as directed and not frequently or as a main contraceptive.

Yup. Those are your general condom facts. I know you love listening to me talk. ha There are many other forms of birth control, but that's for another blog.

Happy fucking! Wear those rain coats.☂️ Seriously.